As marriages get older, the level of responsibilities increases simultaneously. Couples go from being a family of two to that of four or even six. Then, there is career and increasing bills, too. Because of this new phase and responsibilities, there is a priority shift. The focus is no longer on hot wild sex and romance, but on career and the kids. Some couples go from having sex every day in a week, to three times a week, then it decreases to one. And before you know it, the sex is almost non-existent.
Again, there is age playing its role. You are no longer the wild and hot-blooded young adults who fell madly in love with each other and were willing to go the extra miles to experiment whatever comes to their minds; be it sexually or physically.
Aside from the age and responsibilities factor, there is also the “over-familiarity” factor. Couples tend to feel like they have done it all, and there is nothing left to do. Well, that is a big lie. There is always something new to try—new intimacy styles, new ways to arouse your partner. Moreover, there is nothing like too much sex. Your husband will tell you better. Age does not adversely affect their libido in any way. Whenever and wherever, and at any age, they are more than willing to get down.
So, as a woman who is so much in love with her husband, how do you rekindle the sex in your marriage? How do you get your husband back using intimacy? Well, the answer is right at your fingertips:
Switch Off All Devices
Technology is great and is one of the greatest inventions of man, but it has also ruined a lot of relationships. People no longer talk as much as they used to, instead more time is spent on one device or another. Do not be that wife who spends more time on her phone and laptop than she spends with her husband.
If you want to get your husband back to how he used to be when you two were crazily in love with each other, you must do away with the devices and spend more time talking with him. Communication helps you discover new things about your husband and even yourself, including new ways to get sexual pleasures.
So, when you are sitting next to your husband, you both should switch off all devices. You should take the lead, he would follow. Let the focus be on you two and nothing else. Stare into each other’s eyes, talk about those interesting activities you did together. Relive those moments of joy and extreme happiness.
Talk About Fantasies
Discussing your fantasies can be a tricky thing to do. The thought of it might leave you worried that your husband might question those fantasies, or probably say no to experimenting with them. Well, you never know until you try.
Sexual fantasies should not be a thing to be hidden or be shy about. You both are married. His body is all yours to explore and your body is his too.
So, talk to your husband about your sexual fantasies. Even if your fantasies do not exactly match his kind of energy or personality, still talk about them. After talking about yours, encourage him to open up about his fantasies too, and promise to try them out as long as they do not cause any physical harm.
Stop Worrying About Orgasms
Often, couples tend to have sex with orgasm in mind. You want your husband to experience that mind-blowing orgasm, and he wants the same for you too. In the end, you both are so focused on orgasm, that you forget to enjoy yourselves.
So, worry less about orgasm, and be more concerned about enjoying the intimacy. If orgasm comes, great. If it does not, at least you both had a wonderful time. It is the memories of the sex that is going to be stuck in your mind forever.
Schedule A Sex Night
A lot of couples are so less concerned about sex that the idea of a sex night sounds like too much work or even an odd thing to do. But it’s not. It is a great way to rekindle the sex in your marriage. Try as much as possible to schedule a sex night, at least four times a month.
You might wonder what makes sex night special. Well, when it comes to sex night, your mind, body and soul are so focused on the moment. And as expected, your brain shuts out every other thing. It makes the sex even more enjoyable when you are not distracted by the world around you.
So, schedule your sex night and make sure to enjoy each other.
Pleasure Yourself In Front Of Your Partner
If you want to get your husband back to being that giddy young, caring and sex-loving man you once had at your beck and call, then you should be open to trying new things. For instance, pleasuring yourself in his presence. Not just for the show, but pleasuring and enjoying every single second of it.
Trust me, he would be aroused! And in no time, you will have your man’s hands all over you.
Take Turns Initiating Sex
The idea of men initiating sex all the time does not apply in marriages. Why? Your husband is more considerate and sensitive to your needs. You might have just had the most hectic day and instead of initiating sex, he is concerned about you getting enough rest. But what if sex is what you want at that moment? You just have to initiate it.
Initiating sex does not mean you should walk straight up to your man and scream, “I want to have sex,” in his ears. That might work too, but it sounds creepy. Initiating sex should involve staring into his eyes as he talks, touching the most sensitive parts of his body, and kissing his lips and earlobes. He is going to get the message. If he does not, then a tiny whisper of, “I’ve missed your touches,” would do the trick.
Being married for a long time does not mean that your sex life should suffer. Find new ways to rekindle sex in your marriage because sex is an important ingredient. It should never be neglected. You can be a mother of four with a less sexy body than you used to have, and you’ll still have your man running back home, every evening, craving for your body and touches. You just need to keep an open mind and be willing to do the work that’s needed.