Usually, I hear women say things like, “Is it even possible to get a man back after a misunderstanding? If yes, then I need to know how to get my husband back.” The answer to this is YES! Of course, you can get your husband back if you are willing to put in the required effort. Hold on, I will show you how.
In any relationship, including marriages, it is usually the little things that matter the most. You just need to know those “little things” that you need to do to keep the fire burning. You just need the right knowledge.
Free nugget of wisdom—Men love to be in charge of their relationships. The feeling of being the one at the steering wheel of the relationship excites every single cell in their bodies. It is how they are wired. They always want to feel like the hero, no matter the stage of your relationship with them—boyfriend or husband. It massages their ego. In addition to that, men love when their partner is always beside them, cheering and encouraging them. It is how the hero within a man is awakened. Trust me; awakening the hero within your husband is the easiest way to get him to do whatever you want, and whenever you want it.
ASK FOR HIS HELP
No matter how civilized the world gets, a man will always opt for the role of a provider and a protector in a relationship. When you try to take that role away from him, you are unknowingly making him unhappy. Asking your husband to help you get something done is the quickest way to awaken the hero in him.
It might just be as simple as fixing a broken pipe, pruning the plants, or even getting a kid ready for school.
Note: Always ask for his help; do not assume he knows you need his help in certain areas. Men do not pay attention to such details, as much as women.
A well-appreciated man is a happy man. No matter how little the gift is, or how meaningless his good deeds seem, always appreciate your man. Make him feel special. Whenever he lifts his fingers to help you get something done, show appreciation. By doing that, you are not only awakening the hero within him, but you are also showing how much he means to you. A man who doesn’t get appreciated for the little task he gets done would never lift a finger to do the bigger task. After all, who’s going to notice? Who’s going to show gratitude?
If you want to awaken the ‘hero without a cape’ within your husband, always show him that you notice his little efforts and you appreciate them. When he tucks those strands of hair behind your ears, appreciate him. When he makes dinner, show appreciation. And when he tells you how much you mean to him, don’t just brush his words off, show him that you love and appreciate him too. A little kiss on the cheeks and a warm smile would do the trick.
CHALLENGE HIM TO BE HIS BEST SELF
A woman has all it takes to bring out the best in her man! Never doubt this. To get your husband back, to get him to be the man you have always dreamed of having by your side, you have to challenge him. He’s not putting his best into his career or business? He’s your man! Press the right buttons and remind him that there is no limit to the things he can achieve if he puts his mind to it. Is his eating habit bad? Challenge him to fix it. Is he below average when it comes to fitness and body grooming? Be his wife and challenge him to be his best self.
Remember to always do this politely! Challenging him does not translate to picking a fight with him at the slightest chance, or at the side of any flaw. No one is perfect.
ALWAYS APPROACH HIM AS A PARTNER
Your husband is your partner in everything—gossip, business, life and social activities. When things go wrong at any point in time, always approach him as a partner, not as a mother or a boss. After a fight, and you want to make things right, do not make the mistake of pushing him away by being bossy. Do not try to push him around like his mother, because if you do, you will eventually destroy whatever atom of heroism he once had in him. The deal is to awaken it, not put an end to it.
Partners are supposed to support each other. They respect each other because they need to be united to achieve their dreams.
CELEBRATE HIS VICTORIES, SOOTHE HIS LOSSES
In life, no one wins forever. There is always a time to win, and a time to lose something. Your husband is going to have his winning moments and likewise those moments when he counts his losses. No man wants a woman who would rub his losses in his face at the slightest opportunity she gets. Like I said earlier, you are his partner. You became his partner the moment you said yes to his proposal. That partnership does not include mockery. You are meant to stick with each other through thick and thin, and that means celebrating each other’s victories and soothing your losses as well. So, as a wife, you should learn to accept the fact that you have an imperfect man by your side.
In conclusion, the question, “How to get my husband back after a rough patch?” does not have a particular answer or a magic method that works for everyone; rather it is a combination of various methods. Again, what worked for Mrs. A may not work for Mrs. B. But one thing is sure; awakening the hero within a man is the fastest way to get to his heart of hearts. By doing those little things above, you can get a man from feeling like he is just living to feel like a superhero. These acts literally take a man from a regular man to a king!