Making a marriage work or getting your husband back after a brief fallout requires some vital tools and skills whose importance should never be undermined in a home. Showing your husband respect is at the top of the pyramid. The value of respect in marriage could never be underestimated. While couples need to respect each other, respect works differently for men. They crave respect, the same way women crave affection.
Respecting a man is the easiest way to get him to perform his duties as your husband. It is the ‘vitamin’ needed to bolster and spice up a marriage. A well-respected man never forgets home, wherever he goes, and always sees the need to reciprocate.
Below are simple ways to show your husband respect:
ASK FOR HIS OPINION
One quick way to get a man’s attention is to ask for his opinion about something. Sometimes, women believe that asking for a man’s opinion makes them seem indecisive or seen as weak. Some go as far as thinking they might be disturbing the man or distracting him from his own activities.
But that’s not it; men do not see it that way.
Contrary to the above opinions, asking for your husband’s opinion actually makes him feel involved in your day-to-day activities. And it is important for a partner never to feel left out in a marriage or any relationship.
Ask for his opinions today, it’s a form of respect.
LISTEN TO HIM WITHOUT INTERRUPTING
Ever wondered why some men say that women are always talkative in the relationship? It’s mostly because some women rarely allow their husbands to voice out their opinions without interruption.
The universe has blessed women with mouths to speak and men with listening ears, but it’s always good to remember that your husband is also human. Sometimes, he also needs someone to listen to him while he gets some things off his chest.
He could use a listening ear, too.
Even when you have a lot to say, listening without interruption is an important skill. Aside from being a form of respect, it could even aid you in getting your husband back after a fight.
TALK POSITIVE ABOUT HIM TO OTHERS
As a woman seeking to give her man the respect he needs, you should learn to control the urge to say any negative word about your husband when you are angry, especially to others. It does not send across a great message.
Marriage has its up and down, but it does not include putting your husband on the chopping board before a third party and exposing all his flaws.
It’s an action you’d eventually end up regretting. Third parties might use those words against you someday.
DO NOT COMPARE HIM TO OTHER MEN
Frequently, during a fight, a woman would try to hurt her husband’s feelings as much as he had hurt hers. In the process of doing that, she would say some hurtful words, like comparing him to other men. Worse still, comparing him to an ex.
It’s the most disrespectful way to bruise a man’s ego, anyone’s ego, even.
In your marriage, try as much as possible never to compare your man with other men. The words could be said sarcastically or playfully, and it would still hurt your man. Refrain from engaging in such if you ever want to get your husband back after a fight or argument.
There are better ways to tell your man he’s not doing something right without bruising his ego.
SHOW AN INTEREST IN HIS HOBBIES, TOPICS OF INTEREST, OR OCCUPATION
Getting married comes with many responsibilities, and one of them is showing interest in things you were formerly not fascinated by. As a woman interested in respecting your husband, it is absolutely necessary to respect the things he loves and admires. That includes his hobbies, TV shows, sports, occupations and career path. You do not have to be one hundred per cent involved, but it would please him to have someone who understands what he’s interested in.
At least, he would have someone, other than his friends, to have these discussions with. That would be a relief on his part.
KEEP YOUR EXPECTATIONS OF HIM REASONABLE AND REALISTIC
It is so easy to sit and list every single thing you want your husband to do and be, but have you wondered if some of those expectations are totally unrealistic?
You cannot have a George Clooney and Michael B. Jordan in one man. It is good to have expectations but keep them at a realistic level.
You cannot want a man who dedicates his 24 hours to care for you, and still want a man who is a hundred per cent focused on his career. There’s a need to prioritize certain things over others.
Also, while listing your expectations, keep in mind that you’re married to a human—an imperfect one who cannot meet all of your needs.
ABSTAIN FROM UNDERMINING HIS AUTHORITY IN FRONT OF THE CHILDREN
The saying goes, “Charity begins at home.” Your home is the first learning institution for your children. You should make it worth it.
Teaching your children respect by not undermining their father’s authority right before them says a lot about your role as a mother and a wife. It’s like a double accomplishment. You are teaching your kids to respect elders and constituted authorities while also showing your husband the respect he deserves.
If you think there is a need to challenge your man’s authority, do not do it in front of the kids. Do it privately.
CONCLUSION: It is necessary to note that respect never goes out of vogue. A responsible man would forever choose a woman who respects him over a beautiful body, any day. As much as possible, try to respect your husband. Show him love, care for him and remind him of all the beautiful reasons why you chose him to be your life partner. Men deserve to hear those things too.