Is your marriage “on the rocks’ and you’re worried that your spouse is considering separation or even filing for divorce, then I suggest you read on. Here are a few signs indicating whether your husband is contemplating divorce, as well as how to put a stop to it and start rebuilding your marriage and get back your husband in the loving relationship you once shared.
So, let’s start with the first warning sign…
Sign #1 – Arguing Over Everything
Yeah, it’s no secret that an increase in the recurrence and intensity of arguments with your husband is an obvious sign that something is wrong in your relationship. Don’t begin to panic just because you and your spouse clash heads a few times a week… all married couples will have disputes and conflicts once in a while. It’s healthy to have disputes now and then, as long as they result in settlements or don’t leave unresolved anger.
When arguments start becoming regular occurrences and begin over nearly anything, that’s when things start getting a bit unpredictable. For example, if arriving 5 minutes late for a movie date results in a screaming match with both of you heading to bed angry for the third time in a week, that’s a problem. If you have these kinds of arguments often and they seem to exaggerate small grievances or conflicts, it may be a warning that your marriage is going in the wrong direction.
Couples who fight too often but have otherwise stable relationships can typically fix this issue easily. To put it another way, if you and your husband fight too often or argue constantly over trivial issues, you need to figure how to stop useless arguments and have more important disagreements more respectfully and constructively.
Another, serious underlying sign of an unhappy marriage is when either or both of you stop all efforts to resolve conflict. This takes me to my next step…
Sign #2 – No Longer Interested In Resolving Conflict
If your spouse seems to be unconcerned about the outcome of a fight, or if he seems to believe that attempting to solve your problems is pointless or hopeless, it may be a sign of deeper problems. When this kind of despair sets in, your husband may withdraw even further, thinking that there will never be a way for the two of you to live happily together. That isn’t a great thing, and it’s something that you need to deal with if this has become an issue in your marriage.
Sign #3 – Lack of Emotional Connection And Affection
If your husband has been distant and has stopped displaying his affection towards you, this can be a strong sign that he’s psychologically checking out of the relationship. Often connected with this is a general lack of emotional interaction, as well as a lack of desire to discuss or display feelings and emotions.
This, in my opinion, is one of the clearest indications that a marriage is going off course. Usually, it’s typically more of a symptom than a root problem and resolving your marriage’s core problems will usually help you re-build your emotional bond and get your husband to start displaying love once more.
If you’re experiencing this sign, as well as any of the others on this list, it’s time to take steps to save your marriage.
Sign #4 – Little To No More Sex
Sex may be a symptom of other issues in your marriage; if you’re constantly arguing and have no emotional bond, the sex will fade away also.
However, whether it’s due to fading desire or a lack of sex drive, it may become an issue in and of itself, leading to a marital crisis.
In any case, a sexless marriage is almost always doomed to fail, so if your husband appears uninterested in sex or makes excuses, it’s a red flag that there’s an issue.
Sign #5 – Your Husband is Absent More Often or Seems Pre-occupied
If your spouse is staying out late more frequently and showing less interest in family and spending time together, it may be a sign that he’s lonely and unhappy at home. It’s also likely that he is preparing emotionally for life without you, thus establishing a social life or even dating. Hopefully, this isn’t the case, and don’t be too hasty to accuse your husband of it just because he’s home less regularly, however it’s a possibility.
If you’re spending less time with your spouse than you used to or if he appears withdrawn and preoccupied while you’re together, it may be a sign that he is mentally struggling with the decision to end the marriage.
Next Steps: Where to go from here…
First and foremost, let me make one thing clear: just because your spouse exhibits a few of the behaviours I just mentioned does not mean he is certain to file for divorce. These may be simply warning signs of upcoming marital trouble. However, if you’ve recently found any of these signs in your spouse and you’re worried that things aren’t going well in your marriage, I advise you to take action now before things get any worse.
The best way to begin is with this free video from marriage expert Brad Browning, who discusses where you’ve been going wrong and what you need to do to rekindle your husband’s love for you.
I wish you the best in saving your marriage.